You Should Thank Him: Yes, Right Now During Boot Camp!!!!!

So I did tell you that this is a boot camp, right? Sometimes during a boot camp you will experience moments where you may need your Bengay or good old faithful heating pad to get through the rest of the day. During a time of serious, downright tear jerking reflection, I felt I needed to share a MOMENT! Yes, the saying “You cannot correct what you are not ready to confront” is real. As young women we experience pains, especially in our relationships, and we often do not understand the growth or power in them, let alone how we can correct them. Speaking from experience, I have often received a response from God about my relationships I was not expecting. What is so great about God is that he knew exactly what and who I needed in order to grow and while I was off crying, God was busy preparing. What’s even more amazing is that God used that person as only a teaching moment, as they were the smallest piece of the overall picture into what God needed to accomplish. Imagine that! You see, it is often difficult to thank someone when they hurt you, but I am here to tell you young sistah, when you do look back, after the dust has settled, you will have the power to say “THANK GOD”. I needed all of that to make me into the woman I am today. You will not only want to thank God, but also the man or men that have hurt you. It may not be easy at first, but when it does, oh my goodness, you will thank them because you are so much stronger, wiser and better as a result of the pain you both experienced.

So as a young woman growing from her experiences, I thought it was only proper to craft my own thank you note. Now let me put a disclaimer out there, IF YOU ARE READING THIS AND FEEL LIKE OMG is she talking about me, probably so (LOL), but know that this was truly about directing hope to build dreams so I would no longer delay my FUTURE and maybe YOURS too…(SMILE).

I like to call it ….YOU SHOULD THANK HIM!

So, I was thinking about you today and us, and well you remember that guy I had told you about, the one who hurt me oh so bad. Well I was thinking, actually contemplating, that before you thank me and we begin our life of amazing adventures and uncontrollable laughs and smiles you should probably, no you should actually take a second to

Thank him…..

Yes PLEASE thank him. It is because of the broken heart that I was left with I learned how to walk with God and trust that Love is not just a feeling or something you wake up and experience ; It’s a CHOICE. Through the loneliness of a relationship, I came to experience the GREATEST love and the sacrifice of God that allowed me to understand what it means to make a CHOICE. It revealed to me an important lesson; we choose to love and we ACT on it once we choose it. The amazing thing is through the complication of loving him; I learned the simplicity of loving you. It showed me that what we think and say to be complicated is really simple.

So you JUST GOT TO THANK him.

Don’t bother being mad at him. In fact, THANK him that I stopped looking for you and began believing you would find me. No better lesson could I have learned than the one of understanding I could no longer control the outcome of whether love would find me. It was a MUST that I stop trying to predict the future of LOVE. Don’t forget to express your gratitude in the prayer warrior he helped build. In the absence of him, I learned the intimacy of prayer and the importance of coming together to build OUR prayer game. You see if I would have never experience the unavailable him, I may have never knew how awesome two people can be when their voices are lifted to God and their arms are raised to the sky giving thanks for LIFE and the ABILITY to share it with one another.

So go ahead, don’t hold back, THANK him for his contributions.

As tears run down my face, I am happy and feel with an overwhelming sense of amazement that you are here. I too feel the need to thank him along with you. Without him I would have never taken the time to prepare myself for you. I know now that with him I took myself too seriously, which is why I can now laugh when you make that funny face or funny smell. So don’t feel obligated to repair anything that has happened in my life, because through it all I have become a better me and more importantly I have become a whole me. I am now stronger than ever and ready to unite the whole me with the whole you. I now understand that my purpose in your life is NOT to complete you, but to assists you in completing the assignment that God has in your life and for you to do the same in mine.

So trust me when I say your THANKING him should not be crude or filled with cynical words, but with a sense of gratitude. He completed his assignment, and now I am all yours. What is so amazing is when I see your smile, I see the answered prayer that I explained to God when I was imagining what you would look like, what you would think about, what you would live for, and most importantly how you would allow me to enter a space where only God occupies. You might want to give this brother a hug, because his assignment was only to prepare me for you!

In fact, thanking him is the right thing to do; I mean what better thank you, could you give this Brother for giving me to you. In fact, I want to thank him for allowing me to see what it would feel like when I thanked God for creating such an amazing man like YOU!