Can We Just Take A Walk Together

My little one Braxton, my dog of course, was the sweetest, most non confrontational rolling partner I knew. I could discuss anything and go everywhere with him. I could tell him about my day, cry overflowing tears in front of him, and even yell to the top of my lungs while he sat in front of me with a puzzled face. As a loyalist, Braxton would snuggle up to me and look at me with those big eyes that would make me laugh until I was sick. Although his actions spoke those of care and love, he could never verbally communicate back to me or make all the pain go away. He was a dog and unable to communicate back to me what I needed! To be honest, I think I would share my deepest secrets with him because of this very fact; he could not talk back and I could control the communication! I believe Braxton and my behavior was one similar to how we as humans us tactics and methods for avoiding human interaction or controlling another persons response to our feelings. We use these tactics or methods to state a claim rather than communicate a feeling with another person.We have become cowardly to what is really needed to communicate love, healing, or joy with our family, love ones, or friends. It is the simplicity that I think is needed and must be done which requires us to throw our electronic friends in the water and ask “Can We Just Take A Walk Together”.



Through my own process of love and forgiveness, I have learned the one single thing that causes us to totally miss out on the opportunities with other is the inability to simply free ourselves of our struggles or thoughts with one another in a space that allows us to completely communicate in REAL TIME. As I watched a family in the park the other day, I experienced their sacred time spent talking in the park about life, family, and love. As I watch them communicate from a far on a nice park bench, I watched them enter into a long discussion that brought excitement, sadness, and love.I was so inspired that I begin to think to myself, “Can we as people begin to love again through a simple boldness to request that we put down the one-way technology enablers for a minute to pick up the voices or our love so that we can express what’s our minds and hearts?”


I believe the real question starts with us, to ask ourselves, “ Do I think I have either the willingness or courage to stop running from a REAL CHANCE to freely open a lane for a honest two-way conversation with someone I love?” Can I be the type of sistah that is BOLD enough to no longer ask for walk in the park to discuss my feelings but REQUIRE it! Yes, sistah I am talking to me and you. Are we available and open ourselves to stop, drop, and LISTEN to a man, friend, or girlfriend voice his or her feelings instead of emailing, texting, skyping, or facebooking our thoughts. I don’t know about you, but I am ready and willing to make the effort to bring back the REALNESS of conversations and the common language of love and friendship that once existed from looking into someone’s eyes to understand their true thoughts. I will no longer allow the pure essence of walking and talking be dominated by a TEXT MESSAGE! So the next time you get a text or other important message via technology simply reply with “Can we just take a Walk” and I promise your opportunity to really connect will never be the same.


Let’s start a new campaign “SISTAHS FOR REAL COMMUNICATION, so please leave your BBM PIN or CELL PHONE at HOME”…….LOL